But there’s something you can build that’s more substantial than self-esteem, something that doesn’t waver and can actually boost your well-being, and your performance isn’t a factor. According to psychologist Kristin Neff, Ph.D, in her book Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind, that something is self-compassion. Being self-compassionate means that whether you win or lose, surpass your sky-high expectations, or fall short, you still extend the same kindness and sympathy toward yourself just like you would a good friend.
Cultivating self-compassion is good for us. Research shows that people who are self-compassionate, who forgive themselves for their imperfections, have a greater sense of well-being than people who judge themselves.
Know you are blessed,