Why, when we know that there's no such thing as perfect, do we continually hold an imaginary “yardstick of perfection” up to compare our lives to? Is it that we really admire perfection? No--the truth is that we are actually drawn to people who are real and down-to-earth. We love authenticity, and we know that life is messy and imperfect.
We get sucked into perfection for one very simple reason: We believe perfection will protect us. Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame.
Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be our best. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth; it's a shield. Perfectionism is a 20-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it's the thing that's really preventing us from being seen and taking flight.
Know you are blessed,